BLOOD OATH BETWEEN LOVERS IS IT RIGHT OR WRONG?
OUR talk for today is about lovers involving in taking blood oath. In Africa, this is very common among young unmarried lovers, I don’t know about the western world.
Before I start with my story, let me first define what blood covenant means;
Blood covenant can be defined as a blood promise between two individuals, whereby both individual pierce their thumb to bring out blood they their by either join their bleeding thumbs together or lick the blood from the other partners thumb, making a promise(in most cases male and female who are lovers) to always be together and not getting involved with any other individual and if any of the individual involved derails then they place a particular curse on themselves like the failing party runs mad, impotency, barrenness and the rest.
Personally, I have witnessed a situation like this, among two lovers who use to attend the same school with me.
Read their story….
Priscilla and Stanley met in high school and fell in love with each other. They were so much in love that is, they were inseparable. Their relationship blossomed by the day. Then we their classmate go green with envy whenever they were around us. Their love as we believed then was made in heaven…
But they had one obstacle. Priscilla came from a wealthy, powerful influential home. Her parents were well known in the society because of their political influence in the country. While, Stanley is from a poor home, his parents just manage to send him to school and luckily for him he got a scholarship from the government to continue his education.
Now the issue was, Priscilla parents didn’t approved of their relationship because according to them, Stanley is not worthy of their daughter.Also Stanley’s parents disapprove of the relationship, knowing their background so well. The lovers refuse to be separated by their parents, even after graduating from high school, they continued. Both of them left high school for the university. After graduating, Stanley managed to secure a meager job in a small private firm, he still went ahead to Priscilla parents to seek for her hand in marriage. Her parents drove him out of the house. Priscilla was unhappy about her parents action. So they both decided to partake in blood covenant that no matter the obstacles, they will never separate, and as long as both of them are alive they will never get married or sleep with any body else,if they do otherwise, they will run mad.
After taking the oath, they continued their relationship secretly. Unknown to both of them, Priscilla parents were planning to send her overseas to further her studies,they made all the necessary arrangement without informing her, when they were through, they told her their intention. She was happy at the same time sad because she will leave her sweet heart Stanley. She decided to go and complete her studies with the intention of coming back to home to marry her lover. When it was time for the lovers to part,they cried and vowed to continue their love even from a distance.
“Readers I guess me and you know that, their wish won’t come to pass” …………………….
Back to the story, After Priscilla left for overseas, days turned into months, months turn into years, before they knew it 5 years had passed. Their communicating rate was not as constant as it use to be.
Then the worst happened,Priscilla found a new lover overseas, she got carried away,she forgot all about her old flame, the vows she took, the blood oath and all the promises she made to Stanley her lover. Meanwhile, Stanley was here in Nigeria waiting for his lover to return home, he knew something was wrong, because his calls were no longer answered, his mails were never replied. Also, he stuck to the vows he made and stayed completely from all other women.
Two years later, Priscilla got married to her new found lover. And readers guess what happened…. nature took its cause… she ran mad immediately after the ceremony due to the fact that she violated the blood oath she took with her ex lover…:`(
Then as for Stanley, he remain unmarried even till date.,,,,, So sad….
Welcome back readers, after reading this story, you can see that blood oath is not advisable at all in any relationship, although people don’t practice it much these days, but some still do. So dear readers tell me from the story above, what is your opinion, “Blood Oath between ls it Right or Wrong?
How Do We Break This Oath?
My girlfriend and I are both 26 years of age. We took a blood oath and later decided to undo it by mere words of the mouth. But she’s scared words of the mouth alone may not be enough to neutralize the spiritual effects of the oath.
For me, I’m convinced it has been undone. Please is there any suggestions you know of that can undo the oath? Your help will be greatly appreciated.
She is right to be apprehensive because blood oaths come with severe spiritual implications especially if both parties end up not getting married to each other. The presence of blood means the Life Giving Spirit has been invoked; it signposts a pledge to a whole life of commitment to each other. This is the reason some couples who took the blood oath and didn’t end up together experience severe challenges later in life.
There are several ways an intending couple can act out their feelings for each other without going to the extreme of taking a blood oath. Consenting to date each other is itself a form of oath. It means an agreement to stay together and be faithful to each other. Blood oath is therefore completely unnecessary because it doesn’t insulate a couple from breaking up. It adds no special flavour to a relationship. So, taking it is an act of ignorance.
The workability of a relationship depends on the sincerity and trust both parties are bringing into it. Often, blood oaths are taken and administered to prevent infidelity and disappointments. But numerous examples show that it doesn’t prevent the couple from breaking up. Any relationship destined for doom will eventually break up, no matter the efforts put into it.
Blood oath also doesn’t change the character or temperament of a person. The futility of the oath taking can be better appreciated when two people who lack the understanding of the different processes for a successful relationship; the right temperament and attitude take a blood oath to be together for life. The expected outcome of such a relationship is best imagined than experienced.
Rather than bow to the unrealistic notion that taking of blood oath is all there is to the success of a relationship, young lovers should focus attention more on the character and disposition of each other. This is what is more important than engaging in a highly spiritual decision that has the capacity to boomerang in the future.
Both of you would understand the nature of the blood oath better if you go to the book of Exodus in the Bible. It is the story of the exodus of the children of Israel from Egypt; specifically the feast of the first Passover on the eve of their departure from Egypt. The significance of the blood on the doorposts of the homes of the children of Israel was a sign of the covenant between God and His people, such that the Angel of death will not come near their homesteads.
Also, in the book of Genesis, we read of how the blood of Abel cried out for vengeance against Cain his brother, who murdered him and secretly buried his corpse.
From these examples both of you would see that blood oaths are not thing to toy with in the name of love. It is too dangerous and highly spiritual. Not even in marriage rites, is a blood oath required as a sign of commitment between the couple. This is because the name of God alone is sufficient to instill fear and discipline into the union.
This is why blood oaths are discouraged in whatever form. The greatest blood oath has been given to mankind by Jesus Christ who agreed to be our ultimate sacrifice. The sight of blood is precious to God because He only has the power of life and death which the blood represents. To have taken a blood oath is to have called God to witness your vows. The process is a covenant between the both of you and God.
Therefore, the process of terminating it has to go through the process of deliverance of the two persons to ensure spiritual freedom for you both.
You just don’t walk away from such a process you started without prayers and deliverance to nullify the attendant issue that accompanies such a highly spiritual process.
To completely erase the penalties of that oath, there is the need to see a man of God who is spiritually equipped to conduct deliverance for both of you. The reason for this is to obliterate the effects of the covenant and give you both the freedom to pursue other relationships if you so desire.
In addition to this, it is very unwise medically. The couple could unknowingly infect each other with serious health complication, especially when one HIV positive lover could easily transfer such medical condition to the partner through blood oaths. Is it therefore worth it?
Ask your pastor for help.
‘How do I break a blood oath I took with my late boyfriend?’
When Teniola was 16, she went into a blood vow with a man she thought was the only thing that could happen to her. Now she is trapped in fear.
I call it foolishness because I went into the blood vow without thinking what the repercussions would be in the future.
But then, I did not know better as I was just 16 and in a relationship for the first time and just like any teenager, I thought that was the love of my life and nothing would ever separate us.
Toks was in the university and way older than I was and when he asked me out, I felt on top of the world as he was the most sought-after guy in my area and many of my friends went out of their way to get his attention.
He was so cool and anytime he came home on holidays, we did everything we could to get his attention, even fighting ourselves and keeping malice with one another all because of him.
So I was surprised when he stopped me one day on my way back from school and told me he loved me. I felt myself floating and could not believe my luck that the coolest guy in town found me worthy of dating.
When I told my friends later, I became the envy of all and many of them tried to dissuade me from dating Toks but I felt they were just jealous of my good fortune.
Anyways, Toks introduced me to a whole new world and made me see love in a different way. I had read so many romance novels but what I felt for Tokunbo could not be compared to anything I ever read.
When he deflowered me on my 16th birthday, I made a vow that no man would ever touch me as long as I lived and dedicated myself to him. I loved Tokunbo so much and worshipped the ground he walked.
In fact, the way I felt then, I could have easily denounced my parents if I had to make a choice between them and Toks. I was that crazy about him but looking back now, I know it was all puppy love.
But Tokunbo took advantage of me and said we should take a blood vow to cement our love and I gladly accepted. That day, he made some incisions on our thumbs, collected the blood which he mixed with some powdery stuff and gin and we drank from it.
He told me the vow was to bind us together and that anyone that dated or had sex with another person would either run mad or die.
Stupidly, I went along with him. In my childish mind, I never thought of ever dating or sleeping with another man. Toks was my world and no man could ever come close to him.
But tragedy struck when Tokunbo was involved in an accident in his final year in the university and died on the spot.
I was 20 then and since he died, I have not been able to have any meaningful relationship with another man as I always fear running mad or lose my life.
My fear has also been compounded by the fact that when I tried having a relationship some years ago, the man also died in an accident.
My parents are worried that at 28, I am yet to settle down or even bring a man home to meet them. I have gone for deliverance in different churches but I am still afraid for my life.
Dear readers, having gone through Teniola’s story today on Morning Teaser, what do you think she should do to break the blood vow?